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    There was once a great man of God, who stated the man is the foundation in the home and because he is the foundation, the woman must stand in front of him. Saying the wife is to stand in front of her husband, so when the devil comes for the woman, he knocks her into the man, who is standing behind her and he catches her.

    He stated this is the proper order, not realizing, although the man is the foundation, it doesn’t stop him from being out front to protect the woman and the family of which it is his obligation to do. He must stand out front, for he is not regulated to the background, or underneath only. I say again, the man is the foundation, as it pertains to the family structure: he must deal with the attack from the enemy on his family. He is a defensive wall/barrier protecting the family. I say again, the man is the foundation as it pertains to the family structure: he must deal with the attack from the enemy on his family. He is a defensive wall/barrier protecting the family, which is naturally, physically, and spiritually.

     God made Adam first and set him in a garden with everything he needed, Eve was the finishing touch. God made Eve from Adam’s side, meaning she is to walk side by side with him and not in front of him or behind him; meaning they are equal, but have different roles. She is there to be a helpmeet (assistant). She is the same meaning for the word Holy Ghost/The Helper in the N.T. Although they walk side by side, the man is obligated and responsible in the eyes of God, to take the lead role in the relationship. I don't care about modern day philosophical ideas, which deem this as chauvinistic or misogynist. This doesn't change (God is the head of Christ, Christ is the head of man, and man is the head of woman). God was saying her role is to be there, to help the man fulfill his God given call and purpose as his wife; only if they are married. 

     There is so much more which took place in Eden, which I cannot teach on here.     

    Man is the protector, provider, sustainer, and supplier of the family as ordained in the Garden of Eden by God. He is out front and underneath, he is the foundation of what the family is built upon. Now what I just shared is scriptural concerning the man and the woman in the original order of God, based on the book of Gen. A man is never to put his wife out in front of him to face an assault from the enemy. He does not stand behind her to catch her when the devil comes and knocks her back, this is totally unscriptural.

   A man is supposed to be able to minister to his wife needs spiritually, emotionally, mentally, physically, and naturally. She should never have to look outside of the home for any of these things, (key point: Satan bringing another man into the picture). Now I am mindful things happen, this is why the vows are (for better or for worse and in sickness and in health). The husband should be his wife spiritual head and leader as Christ representative, her best friend, confidant, lover, supporter, cheerleader, comforter, and ministering to her love language at all times. All of these things are what qualifies a godly man and a real man to be able to love his wife as Christ loves His Church. Sadly, many men do not have the ability as in the mindset, character, wisdom, and know how to even be this kind of man. For some have never had an example or pattern as a man or father to learn from. Neither, have they invested the time to seek it for themselves according to God's word. Sadly, many women have no idea of the kind of man I described or what to look for in a man who would love them as Christ loves His Church. This is even sadder, being they have the power to say yes or no to a marriage proposal. To the women who are behind the 8Ball who are Christians, get it together, don't be another stat with a sorry behind man, looking stupid when he runs off and making excuses for his sorry tail. Talking about "the Lord Jesus is my husband now." REALLY!!! 

    To the females in Christ, there are things that are required of you as well on your side in being an excellent wife and a woman that your husband will trust you with his very heart. Also, to the women, where did some of you all get the concept that you can raise a boy into a man; when some of you don't know how to pick a man and know what a real man is according to God's definition. This is why some of you all pick the worst garbage out there in these so-called Christian brothers. Nevertheless, it is impossible for you as a female to teach a boy how to be a man. You can bring him up as a good man by principles and morality, but never how to be a (MAN)! Every male child needs a real man and a real father/daddy according to God's definition in their lives. This is God's will for families! This is God's perfect order in a marriage! However, I'm addressing the men at this time. Nevertheless, the example I just gave of the man towards the woman, make sure you are worthy of such a man to be married too. There are (t's) to be crossed and (i's) to be dotted on your side as well.

   Now back to our main topic concerning the men, being they walk side by side with their wives, when the enemy comes in for an assault, the man repositions himself and moves in front of the woman who is at his side. He puts her behind him and he deals with the onslaught of the enemy: by the way ladies, this applies in the natural too, so women make sure you get a real man who will protect you and not run away from you if an attacker comes. The woman who is now behind the man will turn her back to him and cover his rear in love, support, prayer, and interceding for him while he is taking on the enemy in spiritual warfare. That's if he has a godly wife and woman of God. She will be dealing with any threats coming from the rear as his helper, in other words she has his back. This is God’s proper order!

     If the woman is the one who is out in front of the man, why did God call for Adam first after they sinned, although Eve initiated it? Eve eating from the tree was Adam’s fault; though he was not in sin or disobedience himself in initiating their disobedience to God: his problem was he did nothing to stop it, making him responsible in the eyes of God.

    Also to further this truth we look at Matt.12:24-29; the Lord Jesus was dealing with the religious Pharisees who stated He was casting out devils through Satan. He addressed what they said to Him and then added something very relevant to our topic at hand in verse 29 Or else how can one enter into a strong man's house, and spoil his goods, except he first bind the strong man? and then he will spoil his house. Men, if a robber, thief, murderer, etc. come to your home, they know they must first take out the man of the house first and foremost and then they can inflict any harm they want to the women, children, etc. Men, if the strong man of your house is your wife, you got very, very, very, very serious issues!

    This is why the woman is not out front when the devil comes after a family, a man in position will handle it. However, if the man is not on his job and out of position, he will repeat the same mistake/failure of our father Adam. Men, do not follow the scenario of your wife being out front to deal with the enemy and you catch her when she falls back. I am not attacking or targeting anyone; my objective is to declare the truth of God Almighty. I repeat, no man has any business using his wife as a shield to cover his front, because this is what putting her out front means.

     Also, one more thing my brethren in Christ, we as men should be the head-priest and prayer warrior in the home, it's good to have a wife who is a prayer warrior, however she should not be better at it then you if you're the leader in your home and the priest of it: for is not our Lord Jesus as a man in heaven our High-Priest, think about that. You can't love your wife and take care of her as Christ loves the Church, when your relationship with Him is absent in a personal and intimate way.  

    By getting right what went wrong in Eden, which is called troubleshooting, it always deal with the root of the problem and not the symptoms.  This is an excerpt from my final book in chapter  7, entitled (How We as Men Become the Bride of Christ).